Pregnancy

The Wonders of the Placenta: Your Baby’s First Lifeline

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The placenta is one of nature’s most extraordinary creations—an organ that exists only during pregnancy, yet works harder than almost any other organ in the body. It grows alongside your baby, nurtures them for nine months, and then completes its role once your little one is safely in your arms.

Let’s take a closer look at how the placenta forms, what it does, how it’s birthed, and the choices families have once its work is done. Shortly after conception, when the fertilized egg implants in the wall of the womb, special cells begin forming the placenta. By around 12 weeks of pregnancy, it’s fully developed and continues to grow as your baby does. What’s amazing is that the placenta is formed by both you and your baby, yet functions as one seamless unit—a bridge that connects two lives

The Placenta’s Role in Pregnancy

Think of the placenta as your baby’s lifeline. It’s a busy organ, performing several jobs at once, and here’s how it actually does it:

  • Nutrition and oxygen: Tiny blood vessels in the placenta lie right next to your own blood supply. Without the two ever mixing, nutrients (like vitamins, minerals, glucose, and proteins) and oxygen are passed across from your blood into your baby’s umbilical cord. It’s like a customised delivery system that makes sure your baby gets exactly what’s needed for growth.

  • Waste removal: As your baby takes in food and oxygen, they also produce waste products (like carbon dioxide and urea). These pass back across the placenta into your bloodstream. Your body then clears them out, just like it would with your own waste. In other words, the placenta acts like a “shared filter” between you and your baby.

  • Hormone production: The placenta is also a hormone factory. It releases hormones such as progesterone and estrogen to keep the womb lining strong and healthy, while another hormone, hCG, helps sustain early pregnancy. Later on, it makes relaxin and oxytocin-related hormones to prepare your body for labor and breastfeeding. These chemical messengers make sure your body and baby stay in sync.

  • Protection: While not a perfect barrier, the placenta helps block many bacteria and toxins from reaching your baby. It also “teaches” your immune system not to reject your baby, who is genetically part you and part your partner. In this way, the placenta acts like a shield, balancing connection and protection.

When Things Don’t Go as Planned

Sometimes, conditions of the placenta can affect pregnancy. Examples include placenta previa (when it covers the cervix), placental abruption (when it separates too early), or a placenta that doesn’t work as efficiently as it should.

This is why your healthcare team checks placental function during scans and monitors your pregnancy closely if there are concerns. Interestingly, the placenta can also serve as a kind of “black box”—just like in aviation. If complications occur in pregnancy or birth, the placenta can be sent for histological testing. This can provide doctors with valuable insights into what happened and help guide future care.

When the Placenta Can No Longer Fully Do Its Job

As your pregnancy goes beyond 40 weeks, the placenta can gradually become less efficient at supplying oxygen and nutrients to your baby. This doesn’t mean problems always occur, but it’s why healthcare providers monitor post-term pregnancies more closely, often with extra ultrasounds, non-stress tests, or Doppler scans. Signs that the placenta might be underperforming include reduced fetal movements or changes seen on these tests. Understanding this helps parents see why careful monitoring after your due date is important, ensuring your baby remains healthy until birth.

The Birth of the Placenta

After your baby is born, the placenta’s work continues for a short while. Mild contractions, often called “afterbirth pains,” help the placenta detach naturally from the uterine wall. There are two main ways the placenta can be delivered:

  • Active delivery: Your healthcare provider may give a medication (usually oxytocin) and gently guide the placenta out. This is called active management and is done to help the uterus contract firmly, reduce the risk of heavy bleeding, and make the process quicker and safer.

  • Passive (physiological) delivery: In this approach, the placenta is allowed to separate and deliver naturally without medications. You and your baby can rest, and the placenta is delivered when it is ready. This method can feel more gentle and less medicalized, but requires careful monitoring for any signs of bleeding.

After delivery, the placenta is examined to ensure it’s intact, because any retained tissue can cause bleeding or infection. Your midwife or Obstetrician will check it carefully before you leave the birth room

What Happens to the Placenta Afterwards

Hospitals and birth facilities follow strict laws and hygiene measures for handling human tissue. The placenta is classified as human tissue, so if no further use is requested, it is disposed of according to regulations to prevent infection or contamination. Staff wear gloves, store the placenta safely if needed, and use approved methods for transport and disposal.

Many families, however, choose to do something meaningful with the placenta:

  • Encapsulation: Your placenta can be steamed, dried, and ground into capsules for postpartum use. Many parents work with trained and certified doulas, like Kefi the Doula, who handle every step hygienically and professionally.

  • “Black box” testing: If complications occurred during pregnancy or birth, the placenta can be sent for histological testing. Just like a black box in aviation, it can provide important insights into why issues occurred, helping Doctors guide future pregnancies and care.

  • Cultural or personal rituals: Some families bury the placenta, sometimes planting a tree above it as a symbol of new life and growth.

  • Lotus birth: The placenta remains attached to the baby until the umbilical cord naturally falls off, believed to allow a gentler transition for the newborn.

  • Keepsakes or art: Families may create prints or mementos from the placenta as a way to celebrate and remember the pregnancy.

By understanding both the medical protocols and the creative or meaningful options, parents can make informed choices about their placenta that feel right for them.

Honouring the Placenta

The placenta is more than just an organ—it’s your baby’s first home, first protector, and first source of nourishment. While its physical role ends with the birth, many families find comfort in acknowledging its importance and choosing a way to honour it. Whether it’s safely tested, encapsulated with the help of a doula like Kefi, buried in a meaningful ceremony, or simply let go under hospital protocols, the placenta’s impact is lasting. The placenta is a wonder of pregnancy. Knowing its role, the choices available to you, and the safe practices around it can help you make informed, personal decisions as you prepare for your baby’s arrival.

 

Can Chiropractic Care Really Help Get Your Baby in Position?

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Pregnancy is a time of joy, anticipation, and—let’s be honest—plenty of discomforts. As the body changes to accommodate a growing baby, many women experience back pain, pelvic tension, and other physical challenges. But one concern that can cause a lot of anxiety is when a baby is not in the optimal position for birth.

The “optimal position” usually refers to the baby being head down, facing the mother’s back—known as the vertex, anterior position. This is the easiest position for most vaginal births. When a baby is breech (bottom or feet first) or transverse (sideways), delivery can be more complicated, and in some cases, may require a cesarean section.

Given the stakes, it’s no wonder that expectant mothers explore different ways to encourage their babies into the right position before labor begins. Among the options, chiropractic care—specifically the Webster Technique—has been gaining attention. But does it really work? And is it safe? Let’s explore the science, the stories, and the professional perspectives.

Understanding Fetal Positioning

Before diving into chiropractic care, it’s important to understand how and why fetal positioning matters.

The way a baby is positioned in the womb influences the ease and safety of labor. Here are the main positions:

  • Vertex, anterior: Head down, baby facing the mother’s back. This is ideal.
  • Vertex, posterior: Head down, baby facing the mother’s front. Labor can be longer and more painful.
  • Breech: Bottom or feet down. Vaginal delivery may be riskier.
  • Transverse: Baby lying sideways. Vaginal delivery is generally not possible without repositioning.

Babies often change positions throughout pregnancy, but by around 36 weeks, space in the uterus becomes limited. After that point, significant shifts in position are less common—though not impossible

What Is Chiropractic Care in Pregnancy?

Chiropractic care is a form of manual therapy that focuses on the spine, pelvis, and nervous system. Chiropractors use adjustments (gentle, controlled movements) to restore alignment and function.

During pregnancy, chiropractic care can address common discomforts like back pain, sciatica, and pelvic instability. It’s non-invasive, drug-free, and when provided by a practitioner experienced in prenatal care, it can be adapted for safety and comfort.

One specialised prenatal chiropractic method often discussed in the context of foetal positioning is the Webster Technique.

The Webster Technique: The Star of the Show

The Webster Technique is a specific chiropractic analysis and adjustment that focuses on the pelvis and sacrum. Developed by Dr. Larry Webster, it’s designed to:

  • Reduce sacral misalignment
  • Balance pelvic muscles and ligaments
  • Relieve tension that may restrict the baby’s movement

The idea is simple: If the pelvis is aligned and the surrounding muscles and ligaments are balanced, the uterus has more space and less torsion. This improved environment makes it easier for the baby to move into the optimal head-down position—not by “turning” the baby directly, but by removing physical barriers.

How Chiropractic Care Might Help with Positioning

It’s worth emphasising: chiropractors do not manually turn babies. That’s an obstetric procedure called External Cephalic Version (ECV), which involves a medical professional physically manipulating the baby from the outside of the abdomen.

Instead, chiropractic care aims to influence the baby’s position indirectly by:

  • Improving pelvic alignment so there’s no structural asymmetry.
  • Reducing ligament tension, especially in the round ligaments that connect the uterus to the pelvis.
  • Enhancing overall maternal comfort, which can encourage more mobility and better posture—both of which affect fetal positioning.

Think of it like tidying up a room so someone can move around freely: the chiropractor isn’t moving the baby, but making sure the “room” (your uterus and pelvis) is as open and balanced as possible.

Is It Right for You?

If you’re considering chiropractic care to encourage your baby into position, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Choose a Prenatal Specialist: Look for a chiropractor certified in the Webster Technique or with significant prenatal experience.
  • Start Early if Possible: While it’s never too late, starting care before 36 weeks may offer the best chance for success.
  • Work with Your Healthcare Team: Let your Midwife or Obstetrician know you’re receiving chiropractic care. Collaboration ensures the safest approach.
  • Manage Expectations: Chiropractic care isn’t a guarantee your baby will turn. Think of it as improving conditions for an optimal position—not forcing a result.

Other Ways to Encourage Optimal Fetal Position

Chiropractic care can be part of a bigger strategy for encouraging good fetal positioning. Other approaches that we recommend to use along with chiropractic care include:

  • Spinning Babies® exercises (forward-leaning inversions, pelvic tilts)
  • Swimming and prenatal yoga for flexibility and pelvic balance
  • Maintaining good posture—avoid reclining for long periods
  • Regular movement and gentle stretching

Combining these strategies with chiropractic care can increase your chances of success.

The Bottom Line

So, can chiropractic care help get your baby in position? Potentially—yes. The Webster Technique and other gentle adjustments may help balance the pelvis, relax supporting ligaments, and create more space for your baby to move into an optimal position.

While the scientific evidence is still evolving, the approach is low-risk when performed by a qualified prenatal chiropractor. At the very least, many expectant mothers find that chiropractic care relieves discomfort, improves mobility, and helps them feel more prepared for birth.

If your baby is breech, transverse, or posterior late in pregnancy, chiropractic care is worth considering as part of a holistic plan—especially if your goal is to support your body in the most natural way possible. Just remember: the ultimate position your baby takes will be influenced by many factors, some of which are outside anyone’s control.

Wait… A Chiropractor During Pregnancy? Easing Back and Nerve Pain

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It is common to experience aches and pains during pregnancy, it is a time of rapid physical and hormonal change as your body needs to accommodate your growing baby.

Chiropractic care can offer welcome relief and even support a smoother pregnancy and delivery. Treatment involves correcting the body’s mis-aligned joints helping to ease spine and joint pain and promote overall health. But how can Chiropractic Care do this?

As the baby grows, an expectant mom will notice her posture change and her centre of gravity move. In addition to this, her joints will become more flexible due to a hormone called relaxin. While these changes are important because they enable the pelvis to open up to accommodate growing baby, it stands to reason that these changes can cause pain in the muscles and joints of the upper and lower back, neck, hips and pelvis. Other factors like weight gain, fluid retention and muscle stretching commonly occur and can contribute to musculoskeletal discomfort and pain.

Chiropractors identify spinal misalignments and correct them using their hands to gently manipulate the spine, joints and muscles, bringing relief from backaches, pelvic pain and leg cramps. It will help to maintain pelvic balance which may get disrupted due to the postural changes that take place as the belly grows. When treating the pregnant patient, chiropractors tailor their techniques to accommodate the physical changes and sensitivities of expectant mothers.

Key Benefits of Chiropractic Care During Pregnancy Include:

Relief from Back, Hip and Pelvic Pain

A large majority of pregnant women experience lower back pain. As the baby grows and posture changes, the spine may become misaligned. Chiropractic adjustments help reduce pressure on joints, easing pain and discomfort.

Improved Pelvic Alignment

A well-aligned pelvis gives the baby more room to move into an optimal birth position. This may lower the chances of breech presentation and reduce complications during labour.

Shorter, Smoother Labour

Studies suggest that regular chiropractic care during pregnancy may contribute to shorter labour times and less need for interventions, possibly due to improved pelvic function and nervous system support.

Better posture and mobility

Chiropractic adjustments can help correct posture and improve overall mobility, which is important as the body compensates for carrying extra weight.

Improved nervous system function

In addition, chiropractic care can optimise the normal functioning of the body by releasing pressure on the spinal nerves.

Potential Reduction in Nausea

Some women report reduced morning sickness symptoms – this is anecdotal, but is believed to be rated to improved nervous system regulation.

Is it Safe to see a Chiropractor while Pregnant?

Regular chiropractic care during pregnancy performed by a trained and qualified chiropractor, especially one experienced in prenatal care, is safe.  However, chiropractic care should be avoided in certain high-risk pregnancies, such as those with placenta previa, vaginal bleeding, preterm labour or severe preeclampsia. In these cases, always consult your healthcare practitioner first. Chiropractors use gentle techniques and pregnancy-safe equipment.

Chiropractic care during pregnancy can offer safe, drug-free relief from common discomforts like back pain, sciatica, and pelvic pressure. With the right provider and gentle techniques, it can support better alignment, mobility, and comfort throughout your pregnancy journey.

Check out CASA to find a Chiropractor near you and visit @drsonjachiropractor for more educational content and tips on pregnancy wellness.

 

Exercise, Fitness and Movement During Pregnancy

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One of the most beautiful ways to honour your changing body during pregnancy is through intentional movement. Whether you’re a fitness enthusiast or using this chapter to begin a more active lifestyle, staying active during pregnancy can help you feel strong, balanced, and prepared

Why Movement Matters at Every Stage of Pregnancy

Staying active in pregnancy offers a wide range of benefits for both mother and baby. Here’s what the science and experience tell us — and how these changes actually happen in the body:

  • Improves circulation – Movement boosts blood flow, helping your heart pump more efficiently. This is especially important during pregnancy, as your blood volume increases by up to 50%. Better circulation helps reduce swelling in the legs and feet and lowers the risk of blood clots.
  • Supports posture and alignment – As your belly grows, your centre of gravity shifts. Exercise strengthens your core, hips, and back muscles, helping your body stay aligned and reducing strain on your lower back and pelvis.
  • Boosts mood and energy – Physical activity increases endorphins (feel-good hormones) and decreases cortisol (stress hormone), which helps manage mood swings and fatigue. Even a short walk can shift your mental and emotional state.
  • Helps with sleep – Gentle movement regulates your nervous system and reduces physical discomfort, making it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep, especially in the second and third trimester.
  • Prepares the body for labour and birth – Movement enhances stamina, flexibility, and breath control. Strengthening your pelvic floor, legs, and core muscles can make pushing more effective and labour more manageable.
  • Supports a faster recovery postpartum – Active moms often regain their strength, mobility, and energy quicker after birth, thanks to stronger muscles and cardiovascular conditioning during pregnancy.

When to Be Cautious

Exercise is safe for most pregnancies, but check with your provider first if you have complications like bleeding, placenta previa, a history of preterm labour, or if you’re carrying multiples. Always listen to your body and stop if something doesn’t feel right.

What to Avoid

Skip high-risk activities like contact sports, anything with a fall risk (e.g. skiing, horseback riding), hot yoga, heavy lifting, and scuba diving. Avoid movements that strain your core or cause discomfort.

Safe and Supportive Exercises During Pregnancy

The goal isn’t intensity — it’s consistency and connection to your changing body. These exercises are both safe and beneficial when modified for pregnancy:

  • Walking – It gently elevates your heart rate, improves circulation, supports pelvic mobility, and is easy to adapt to your energy levels.
  • Prenatal yoga – Helps stretch and strengthen muscles, regulate breath, reduce anxiety, and build mindfulness around your body’s changes.
  • Swimming or aqua aerobics – The water supports your body weight, relieving pressure on joints and helping cool the body. It’s especially helpful in the third trimester.
  • Prenatal Pilates – Builds core stability, posture, and body awareness. With proper modifications, these classes support your changing centre of gravity.
  • Gentle dancing – Movement to music boosts mood, supports mobility, and helps you feel good in your body.

Every mom-to-be has a different starting point, and both deserve support and celebration.If you were exercising regularly before pregnancy, you can often continue — with adjustments. Reduce intensity, avoid overheating, and be kind to your body. Aim to maintain, not improve, your fitness level. Pregnancy can be the perfect opportunity to begin a healthier lifestyle. Start small — a 10-minute walk, gentle stretches, or a prenatal movement class. You don’t need to be perfect — you just need to begin

You’re Moving for Two.

Exercise during pregnancy isn’t about appearance. It’s about strength, grace, and preparation. Each walk, stretch, and breath is a powerful act of self-care — and a way to connect with your baby.

A Note on Compassion: Every Pregnancy Is Different

Some days you’ll feel ready to move, and others you’ll be struggling with fatigue, nausea, round ligament pain, or complications like hyperemesis gravidarum. Your journey is unique and valid.

There is no one-size-fits-all pregnancy, and movement will look different across trimesters, pregnancies, and even weeks. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace. Sometimes rest is the most nourishing thing you can do for you and baby.

 

Before You Begin: Quick Checklist

Consult your provider if you have any concerns
Warm up and cool down before and after each session
Stay hydrated and avoid overheating
Wear supportive shoes and a comfortable sports bra
Pay attention to your body’s signals — stop if something feels off

Movement is medicine. Whether you’re bouncing on a birth ball, stretching on a mat, or walking around your neighbourhood, know this: you’re honouring your body and baby with every step.

Creating Your Birth Plan: A Guide to Preparing for Your Ideal Birth

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When it comes to childbirth, knowledge and preparation can go a long way in helping you feel empowered and in control. While labor and delivery can be unpredictable, having a birth plan allows you to communicate your preferences to your healthcare team. Think of it as a roadmap that outlines your wishes while remaining flexible enough to adapt to unforeseen circumstances. In fact, many birth professionals now refer to it as a “birth preference plan” to acknowledge its evolving nature

The Benefits of Having a Birth Plan

  1. Clarity and Communication – A birth plan helps you articulate your wishes regarding pain management, labor positions, and interventions so that your healthcare team can support you accordingly.
  2. Informed Decision-Making – Researching and compiling a birth plan encourages you to explore different options, making you a more informed participant in your birth experience.
  3. Reduces Anxiety – Knowing that your preferences are documented can provide a sense of control, reducing stress and helping you mentally prepare for labor.
  4. Supports Partner and Birth Team Involvement– Your birth partner and support team will better understand how to advocate for your choices if they are clearly laid out in advance.
  5. Ensures Continuity of Care – In case there is a shift change or multiple caregivers involved, a written plan ensures everyone is on the same page regarding your preferences.

How to Compile Your Birth Plan

Your birth plan should be simple, clear, and flexible. Here’s how to go about it:

Step 1: Understand Your Options

Birth practices are constantly evolving, with advancements and research supporting a more patient-centered approach to care. It’s important to be well-versed in the options available to you and the latest evidence-based practices. For example, episiotomies were once routine but are now performed selectively, as research suggests that natural tears can be less painful and heal better than a surgical incision. A study published in the Journal of Midwifery & Women’s Health found that women who experienced a natural perineal tear reported lower pain scores and faster recovery times compared to those who had an episiotomy.

Additionally, there is growing awareness around gentle cesarean sections, which aim to create a more natural and family-centered surgical birth. This approach may include practices such as a slower delivery to mimic vaginal birth, immediate skin-to-skin contact, and a clear drape so the mother can witness the birth, fostering early bonding.

By understanding modern birthing options, you can make informed choices about:

– Different pain relief methods (epidurals, nitrous oxide, TENS machines, etc.)

– Labor and birthing positions

– Medical interventions such as induction and assisted delivery

– Newborn procedures (cord clamping, vitamin K injection, skin-to-skin contact)

Taking antenatal classes and discussing your preferences with your healthcare provider can further equip you to make choices aligned with your comfort and well-being.

Before you draft your plan, take time to learn about labor and birth options. Attending antenatal classes can help you understand:

– Different pain relief methods (epidurals, nitrous oxide, TENS machines, etc.)

– Labor and birthing positions

– Medical interventions such as induction and assisted delivery

– Newborn procedures (cord clamping, vitamin K injection, skin-to-skin contact)

Step 2: Outline Your Preferences

Your birth plan should be concise and include:

– Birth Environment: Do you want a calm, dimly lit room? Music playing?

– Pain Management: Would you prefer a drug-free birth, or are you open to an epidural?

– Labor Preferences: Movement, hydrotherapy, use of a birthing ball?

– Medical Interventions: Preferences regarding induction, C-section, forceps, or vacuum assistance.

– After Birth: Delayed cord clamping, immediate skin-to-skin, who cuts the cord?

– Newborn Care: Breastfeeding preferences, pacifiers, vaccinations.

It’s also important to ensure that your birth plan aligns with your chosen midwife or obstetrician, as not all providers offer the same options. Some obstetricians do not perform water births, and certain hospitals may not have TENS machines or birthing pools available. Having an open discussion with your healthcare provider about what is feasible at your birth location will help you set realistic expectations and avoid surprises on the big day. By understanding these logistical factors, you can refine your plan to be both practical and empowering, ensuring that your preferences are honoured within the available resources.

Step 3: Keep It Short and Flexible

Your birth plan should be 1-2 pages long and use bullet points to make it easy for healthcare providers to read. Acknowledge that birth is unpredictable, and include a statement about being open to medical advice if circumstances change.

What to Do Once You’ve Compiled Your Birth Plan

  1. Discuss It with Your Healthcare Provider – Review your plan with your midwife or obstetrician to ensure that your preferences align with hospital policies and medical recommendations.
  2. Share It with Your Birth Team – Give copies to your partner, doula, and any family members who will be supporting you during labor.
  3. Pack It in Your Hospital Bag – Ensure a printed copy is included in your hospital bag so it’s easily accessible when you arrive at the birth facility.
  4. Stay Open to Changes – Birth is dynamic, and sometimes plans need to shift for safety reasons. Being informed and adaptable will help you navigate these changes with confidence.

Basically rather than seeing it as a rigid checklist, consider your birth plan a “birth preference plan”—a flexible guide that evolves as circumstances change. The goal is not to dictate every moment of labor but to create a framework that ensures your voice is heard and your wishes are honoured as far as possible. By preparing in advance and remaining open-minded, you can create a birth experience that is both empowering and adaptable, no matter what turns your journey takes.

Partners in the Delivery Room: A Personal Choice or a Modern Must?

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Picture this: It’s the big day—contractions are intensifying, the hospital bag is packed, and the delivery room awaits. But there’s a lingering question many expectant parents grapple with: Should your partner be right there beside you, witnessing every moment?

For many modern couples, the answer is a resounding yes. Partners—most often male, in heterosexual relationships—have become fixtures in delivery rooms, offering support, love, and sometimes a hand that might never recover from being squeezed too tightly! But not everyone feels the same way about this practice, and it’s worth exploring why.

The Evolution of Partners in the Delivery Room

Just a few decades ago, childbirth was considered a “women-only” affair. Fathers were often relegated to the waiting room, nervously pacing with cigars in hand. It wasn’t until the 1960s and 70s that cultural norms began to shift, driven by advocacy for fathers’ involvement in parenting. By the 1980s, it became increasingly common for male partners to be present during childbirth, a trend reinforced by the popularity of childbirth preparation classes like Lamaze.

Today, it’s almost expected that a partner will be by the birthing person’s side. Yet, this wasn’t an organic change for everyone. Many partners felt pressured by societal expectations rather than driven by their own desire to participate. A study by the National Childbirth Trust found that while 90% of fathers attended the birth of their child, around 20% admitted feeling anxious, unprepared, or even reluctant to be there.

What Expectant Mothers (and Birthing People) Say

For some birthing people, having their partner present is non-negotiable. It provides emotional support, advocacy when communicating with healthcare providers, and a shared sense of responsibility. “Knowing my partner was there made me feel less alone,” said first-time mom. “Even though I was the one going through the physical pain, his presence reminded me that we were in this together.”

But not everyone feels the same way. Some moms prefer to keep the delivery room a more private space, perhaps involving a trusted doula or a close friend instead. Reasons range from cultural beliefs to a desire for minimal distractions. One mother shared, “I love my husband, but he doesn’t do well with medical stuff. I knew having him there would make me more anxious.” Another mom expressed a different concern—that her partner might never look at her the same after witnessing her bear down during the intense moments of labor. This fear of being seen in such a vulnerable state can understandably shape some birthing people’s preferences

Partners’ Experiences: A Mixed Bag

While some partners describe being present at childbirth as life-changing and deeply bonding, others recall feelings of helplessness and even trauma. Witnessing a loved one in pain without being able to do much can be distressing.

In some cultures, however, there’s still a lingering stigma around men being present during childbirth. Traditional norms in these communities can exclude male partners, reinforcing outdated ideas that childbirth is solely a woman’s domain. This leaves many partners feeling disconnected from the birth process and uncertain about their role.

What About Queer Couples?

Queer couples bring an essential perspective to this conversation. For LGBTQIA+ parents, the dynamics of who is present during childbirth can differ significantly from heterosexual norms. Non-biological parents, for example, often face unique challenges in being recognized as legitimate support figures during labor. A study published in the Journal of Perinatal Education highlights that non-biological parents in queer families frequently report feeling sidelined by healthcare staff who may not fully understand their role. Ensuring that all types of families are welcomed and included requires a more nuanced approach from caregivers. In some cases, healthcare providers may overlook their role, causing feelings of exclusion.

“I had to repeatedly explain that I was my wife’s partner,” shares a non-birthing mom, who welcomed her first child in 2023. “Some staff members just assumed I was a friend or a sister, which was frustrating.”

For transgender and non-binary parents, being in the delivery room can also be fraught with discomfort if healthcare providers aren’t inclusive or respectful. Ensuring that all birthing people and their partners feel seen and valued requires ongoing effort from both medical professionals and society at large.

The Benefits of Partner Presence

When both partners feel ready and willing, their presence during childbirth can be transformative. Continuous support has been linked to shorter labor durations, reduced need for interventions, and higher satisfaction with the birth experience. Beyond the clinical benefits, it’s often those first moments—the first cry, the tiny fingers grasping theirs—that create lasting memories and deepen the bond between partners and their newborn.

Finding What Works for You

Ultimately, whether or not a partner should be in the delivery room is a deeply personal decision. There is no right or wrong answer—only what feels right for each couple or family. Attending antenatal classes and creating a birth plan together can help guide this choice, providing both partners with a clearer understanding of what to expect and how to prepare. Open communication is key. Discuss expectations, fears, and preferences well before the due date. If a partner is unsure about attending, consider involving a doula or close relative to provide additional support.

For queer couples, advocating for inclusive care is vital. It’s essential to choose hospitals and birth centres known for LGBTQIA+-friendly practices, where staff are trained in inclusivity. Asking direct questions during prenatal visits can help ensure everyone feels safe and respected during this monumental event. Birth is about welcoming new life, and everyone—regardless of gender or orientation—deserves to experience it with dignity.

Let’s Talk!

We’d love to hear from you: Did you have your partner in the delivery room? How did it impact your birth experience? If you’re expecting, what are your thoughts on this? Share your stories and perspectives in the comments below or on our Instagram post here —let’s start a conversation!

 

Teenage Pregnancy: The Causes, Challenges, and Support for Teen Moms

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Teenage pregnancy can feel like a massive curveball. It’s one of those situations that can turn life upside down, not just for the young mom-to-be but for her family too. Did you know that about 16% of all births in South Africa are to teenage moms? That’s a pretty eye-opening stat! So let’s dive into what causes it, the challenges it brings, and—most importantly—how young moms and their families can get through it together.

 Why Does Teenage Pregnancy Happen?

There’s no single answer, but a few common factors stand out:

Not Enough Sex Education: A lot of teens don’t get proper information about contraception and reproductive health. Without this knowledge, it’s easy for accidents to happen.

Poverty and Tough Situations: For many girls, tough financial circumstances lead to risky relationships or even transactional ones.

Peer Pressure and Cultural Expectations: Friends and society sometimes make young people feel like they should be in relationships or having sex before they’re ready.

Limited Access to Contraceptives: Even if they want to use protection, some teenagers struggle to get it because of stigma, cost, or lack of nearby resources.

Gender-Based Violence: This is a heartbreaking reality in South Africa, and it plays a significant role in unplanned teenage pregnancies.

 What Are the Implications?

Having a baby as a teenager comes with challenges. Here’s a glimpse of what young moms often face:

School and Education: Many girls drop out of school because of the stigma or the demands of raising a child. Losing out on education limits future opportunities.

Health Risks: Teenage pregnancies can be risky, both for the mom and the baby. Complications like low birth weight or preterm labor are more common.

Money Worries: Without a stable job or qualifications, many young moms face financial struggles.

Feeling Judged: Let’s face it—society can be tough. The stigma of teenage pregnancy can lead to isolation and low self-esteem.

So, What Can Teenage Moms Do?

It’s not easy, but there’s help out there, and young moms are stronger than they think. Here are some tips:

Get Healthcare Early: Start antenatal visits as soon as possible. Public hospitals and clinics in South Africa offer free care, so take advantage of it to ensure you and your baby are healthy.

Stay in School: It might feel impossible, but staying in school or continuing education is key. Programs like the Department of Basic Education’s learner pregnancy policy are there to help. Online courses can also be a great option.

Find Your Village: Having people you trust—family, friends, or mentors—can make all the difference. Joining a support group for teenage moms is another great way to connect with others in the same boat.

Talk to a Counsellor: Pregnancy is emotional, and for teenagers, it can feel overwhelming. Counselling can help process feelings and reduce stress. Community social workers are also a fantastic resource.

Learn Parenting Skills: Nobody’s born knowing how to be a parent. Parenting workshops can teach young moms how to care for their baby and themselves.

Supporting the Family Through Teenage Pregnancy

Teenage pregnancy can feel overwhelming not just for the young parent but for their family and loved ones as well. It’s a time that calls for resilience, understanding, and a commitment to unity. Here are some practical ways families can support themselves and each other during this period: 

Open Communication: Creating a safe space for open and honest conversations is vital. Family members should listen without judgment and encourage the teenager to express their feelings and concerns. This helps foster trust and ensures that decisions are made collectively and compassionately. 

Seek Professional Guidance: Consider reaching out to a midwife, counsellor, or social worker who specializes in teenage pregnancy. Professional support can help the family navigate the medical, emotional, and social challenges they may face. 

Build a Support Network: Lean on extended family, friends, or community resources for help. Whether it’s offering childcare, providing emotional support, or helping with household tasks, having a reliable network can ease the burden. 

Practice Self-Care: Family members often pour all their energy into supporting the teenager and may neglect their own well-being. Taking time for self-care—whether through rest, hobbies, or counselling—is crucial to staying emotionally and physically

healthy.

Stay Focused on Positivity: It’s easy to dwell on the challenges, but focusing on the future can be empowering. Celebrate small victories, such as milestones in the pregnancy or progress toward educational and career goals. 

Educate and Empower: Encourage the teenager to attend antenatal classes, learn about parenting, and continue with their education. By showing support for their growth, the family reinforces a sense of hope and responsibility. 

Families should remember that while teenage pregnancy can be challenging, it also presents an opportunity for growth, learning, and strengthened relationships. By approaching the situation with compassion and a problem-solving mindset, loved ones can not only help the young parent thrive but also find strength and resilience in themselves. 

First-Time Parent Classes: Empowering Your Journey into Parenthood

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Starting the journey into parenthood can be both thrilling and overwhelming. Many expectant parents think they’ll learn on the go or rely on friends and family for guidance. While support networks are invaluable, first-time parent classes—like Welcome Baby’s antenatal program—offer dedicated, up-to-date, and professional guidance that equips you with the knowledge, confidence, and support you need. We designed these classes not only to educate but to empower and connect. Here’s why our classes go beyond traditional preparation and are helping parents feel prepared, supported, and confident from the very start.

Why We Offer Antenatal Classes for First-Time Parents

At Welcome Baby, we saw a gap in support for first-time parents. While Midwives and Obstetricians provide excellent resources and support, Our classes are here to reinforce what you learn from your primary care provider and offer ongoing, in-depth support.

From pregnancy to postpartum care, we are committed to providing information that’s current, reliable, and tailored for first-time parents. Beyond information, our passion is in building relationships, offering reassurance, and helping you feel fully supported.

Dispelling the Myth: “Do I Really Need a Parenting Class?”

It’s common to feel that because you’ve been around younger relatives or received advice from friends, you might not need a formal class. But parenting comes with complexities that aren’t always obvious until you’re living it, and we believe that preparation helps you meet these challenges with confidence. Our classes aren’t only about what to expect during pregnancy or labor; they also provide practical tools for coping with the early months, insights into newborn care, and advice on mental and emotional readiness.

Parenting has evolved, and with that, so have resources and techniques. What worked for previous generations might not align with today’s best practices, and our classes provide up-to-date guidance. We also know that every parent brings unique experiences and needs to the table, and we aim to address those personally. Many couples returning for their third or fourth child have shared that they feel a renewed sense of confidence through these classes, knowing they’re giving their family the best possible start.

When to Begin: Starting Classes After 28 Weeks

For expectant parents, the ideal time to begin antenatal classes is around 28 weeks of pregnancy. Parents are also typically ready to dive into the details of birth and early parenthood. Starting classes at this point also allows us to keep information fresh and relevant as you enter the final trimester, giving you ample time to absorb and apply what you learn.

What to Expect at Each Lesson

Our Welcome Baby classes are structured to provide comprehensive support and practical guidance from the third trimester all the way to the care & safety of the newborn. Here’s a glimpse of what you can expect:

  1. Introduction and Birth Preparation: Starting with the third trimester and how to manage through it, we’ll then walk you through the stages of labor, pain management options, breathing techniques, and what to expect for both a caesarean section and vaginal birth. We also reinforce the importance of knowing the early warning signs in pregnancy and when to urgent seek medical attention
  2. Understanding Birth Plans and Partner Support: We help parents communicate their wishes and empower partners to be active participants.
  3. Newborn Care and Safety: We guide you through essential newborn care, helping you understand the adjustments a neonate makes to life outside the womb. From nutrition and feeding to sleep and hygiene, we provide practical techniques for nurturing your baby while emphasizing safety measures to ensure their well-being.
  4. Postpartum Wellness: Our classes address physical and emotional recovery, guiding you through the transition and helping you understand what to expect in the first weeks at home.

The Benefits of Virtual Classes

For the comfort and convenience of our parents-to-be, Welcome Baby offers virtual classes, enabling you to join from home or any comfortable setting. This option can be especially helpful if you’re on bed rest, living far from our physical locations, or simply prefer to participate from a place that feels familiar. Virtual classes also make it easier for both the mom to be and their birthing partner to attend regardless of scheduling challenges.

Accessible to All: Medical Aid, Pro-Bono, and Cash Clients Welcome

At Welcome Baby, we believe that every expectant parent should have access to quality antenatal education. We accept medical aid clients, pro-bono clients, and cash clients to ensure that financial considerations don’t limit access to our classes. We also offer gift vouchers, so family and friends can contribute to your journey, providing a meaningful gift that goes beyond material items. Whether you’re a new parent or welcoming another child, we’re here to help you feel as prepared and supported as possible.

Real Stories from Welcome Baby Families

Many families have walked through our doors (virtually or in person) over the years, and their stories underscore the diverse reasons that bring them to antenatal classes:

A Returning Parent’s New Journey: One mother, attending her third pregnancy with us, shared that her mother was a great support with her previous babies, but after her mother’s passing, she felt overwhelmed with the thought of parenting without that same help. She joined our classes, finding a community and practical support that helped her feel more confident and connected this time around.

A Second Chance for a Young Mom: Another mom, who had her first child at a young age, had a challenging experience with limited guidance. Now, with her second pregnancy, she is committed to creating a more positive experience by arming herself with the knowledge, tools, and community support that Welcome Baby provides.

 Empowering First-Time Parents: One expectant mother, preparing for her first child, was referred to our classes by her obstetrician. Initially, she was a bit surprised by the concept of a parenting class, unsure if it was necessary. However, as she and her partner attended each session, they found it to be both empowering and enlightening. The classes dispelled common myths and misconceptions, providing the latest insights and practical skills to approach parenting with confidence. She later shared, “It felt like having a coach—not for my career, but for my journey into motherhood.” The course gave her and her partner the tools they needed, helping them feel truly prepared and supported every step of the way.

Our Welcome Baby antenatal classes provide the support and knowledge that go beyond basic preparation. Offering expectant parents not just information but the reassurance and confidence they need. Parenting may not come with a manual, but with the right support, it can feel a whole lot more manageable.

If you’re ready to feel supported, knowledgeable, and connected as you step into parenthood, we invite you to join our classes and experience the difference that informed, compassionate guidance can make.

Understanding Gender Disappointment: Causes and Coping Strategies

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During our recent “Vital Baby: Ask the Midwife Live” session, a viewer brought up a topic we hadn’t previously addressed in much depth: Gender disappointment. A topic I never normally touched on yet is one that many expectant parents quietly struggle with. After delving into research and reflecting on this complex emotion, I’ve realized just how important it is to discuss this openly and provide support for those who might be feeling a sense of disappointment around their baby’s gender.

Let’s unpack what gender disappointment is, explore its potential causes, and share ways to manage these feelings.

What is Gender Disappointment?

Gender disappointment refers to the feeling of sadness, frustration, or even guilt that some parents experience when they find out the gender of their baby is not what they were hoping for. While the joy of expecting a healthy baby is undeniable, the emotional impact of unmet expectations regarding the baby’s gender can be surprisingly significant for some.

It’s important to note that this doesn’t make someone a “bad” parent or ungrateful. It simply reflects how deeply personal hopes and societal influences can shape our feelings during pregnancy.

In fact, a study published in the Journal of Reproductive and Infant Psychology found that up to 18% of expectant mothers report experiencing some degree of gender disappointment. This highlights how common and yet often unspoken these feelings can be, even in cultures where gender equality is valued.

What are some of the Causes Gender Disappointment?

There are several reasons why someone might experience gender disappointment, and it’s essential to understand that these are complex, often subconscious, feelings:

Societal and Cultural Expectations

Some cultures place a high value on a particular gender, often due to historical reasons. This can lead parents to feel pressured to hope for one gender over another, and disappointment when those hopes aren’t met.

Personal Expectations

Many parents have a vision of their family that may include one or more children of a specific gender. This vision could be based on their own experiences growing up, the dream of having a “mini-me,” or the desire to parent a child of the same or opposite gender.

Family Influence

Family members may express a preference for one gender, which can weigh on parents. Whether explicit or implied, these expectations can lead to disappointment if the baby’s gender doesn’t match what the family envisioned.

Past Trauma or Sexual Assault

For some parents, particularly those who have experienced trauma or sexual assault, their desire for a particular gender may be tied to emotional safety. For instance, a parent who has experienced abuse at the hands of a male figure may feel more comfortable raising a daughter, believing they will be able to shield her from similar harm. Conversely, a parent who associates females with certain traumatic events may wish for a boy, hoping to avoid confronting those painful memories. This can make gender disappointment feel even more intense, as it may be linked to deep-seated fears and unresolved trauma.

  

Stereotypes and Roles

Society often associates certain characteristics or roles with boys and girls, which can shape a parent’s expectations. For instance, a mother may dream of raising a daughter to share certain experiences, and a father might imagine passing on traditions to a son.

Managing Gender Disappointment

If you or someone you know is experiencing gender disappointment, it’s important to approach the situation with compassion and understanding. Here are some ways to manage these feelings:

Acknowledge Your Feelings

The first step in managing gender disappointment is acknowledging that these feelings are valid. Suppressing or feeling guilty about them only adds to the emotional burden. It’s okay to feel disappointed, even while being excited about welcoming a new baby.

Talk About It

Sharing your feelings with a partner, trusted friend, or even a healthcare provider like a midwife can help lighten the emotional load. Often, verbalizing these emotions helps you process them better and can prevent them from festering.

Focus on Your Baby as an Individual

Gender disappointment often arises from idealized expectations. Try shifting focus from gender-specific hopes to the individual traits and personality your baby will develop. Every child, regardless of gender, brings unique joys and challenges.

Seek Support from Others Who’ve Been There

You’re not alone. There are online forums and support groups for parents who’ve experienced gender disappointment. Hearing other people’s stories can be comforting and help normalize your feelings.

Be Kind to Yourself

It’s important to remind yourself that disappointment doesn’t reflect how much you love your child. Many parents who experience gender disappointment find that once their baby is born, these feelings fade and are replaced by deep love and connection.

Consider Professional Help 

If these feelings persist and are affecting your mental health or your ability to enjoy your pregnancy, seeking the help of a counsellor or therapist can provide additional support. For those dealing with unresolved trauma, it may be especially beneficial to work with a therapist who specialises in trauma-informed care.

Gender disappointment is a very real and valid experience that can be difficult to navigate. As midwives and childbirth educators, it’s our responsibility to create a safe and non-judgmental space where parents can share their feelings. Addressing these emotions early on can help expectant parents feel more empowered and at peace as they prepare to welcome their little one.

At Welcome Baby Antenatal, we strive to support every aspect of the pregnancy journey, including the emotional complexities that come with it. We’re here to help guide you through all the ups and downs of pregnancy and parenthood with care, empathy, and understanding.

Remember, no matter the gender, your baby is uniquely yours, and your parenting journey will be filled with moments of joy, growth, and connection.

How to Stay Active and Healthy During Pregnancy with Support from Welcome Baby Antenatal

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Pregnancy is a transformative journey, one that requires careful attention to physical and mental health. While exercise has numerous benefits for expectant moms, such as improving mood, reducing discomfort, and promoting a smoother labour, many women are unsure about what’s safe or how to stay active during this time. In a previous article, we explored the benefits of exercise during pregnancy and touched on who should avoid it. Now, we’d like to go a step further and introduce you to a supportive and safe way to maintain activity through our upcoming antenatal and postnatal exercise classes.

Common Challenges in Staying Active During Pregnancy

For many pregnant women, staying active isn’t as simple as it sounds. Fatigue, physical discomfort, and uncertainty about what exercises are safe can make it difficult to maintain a consistent routine. In the postpartum period, recovery from childbirth, managing a newborn, and simply finding time for yourself can be overwhelming.

At Welcome Baby Antenatal, we recognize these challenges and are here to provide the support you need to navigate them. Staying active is not just about physical fitness; it’s also about keeping your mind engaged, reducing stress, and preparing for the demands of motherhood.

Introducing Virtual Antenatal and Postnatal Exercise Classes

To help support you through your pregnancy and postpartum journey, we are thrilled to announce the launch of our virtual antenatal and postnatal exercise classes! These classes are designed to be gentle, accessible, and convenient for all moms-to-be and new mothers, no matter where they are in their journey.

Why Virtual?
We understand that leaving the house during the later stages of pregnancy or early postpartum days isn’t always easy. Between physical recovery, adjusting to new routines, and taking care of a newborn, finding the time to get out can be daunting. That’s why our virtual classes offer you the flexibility to stay active from the comfort of your home, at your own pace.

What to Expect
Our classes will be hosted by Sister Natasha, a fitness and health enthusiast who is passionate about supporting women through their pregnancy and postpartum fitness journeys. These sessions will focus on simple, gentle exercises aimed at encouraging mobility, improving circulation, and enhancing overall well-being. Each class will be tailored to suit the needs of both expectant moms and those in the postpartum phase.

Mindful Moments
In addition to physical exercises, we’ll be incorporating mindful moments into every class. These are short segments where we’ll take a pause to centre our thoughts, reflect on our bodies, and affirm the incredible journey of pregnancy and motherhood. It’s a chance to thank yourself for taking time out to nurture both your body and mind.

Important Reminder: Consult Your Healthcare Provider

Before participating in any exercise program, especially during pregnancy or the postpartum period, it’s important to consult with your healthcare provider to ensure that it’s safe for you. Every pregnancy is different, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another. We encourage all our clients to discuss our classes with their doctors or midwives before joining.

Learn More and Join Us

At Welcome Baby Antenatal, we believe that staying active during pregnancy and beyond doesn’t have to be complicated. With our virtual classes, you’ll have the opportunity to safely and gently nurture your body in a way that suits your personal needs and schedule.

If you’re interested in learning more about our antenatal and postnatal exercise classes, or any of our other offerings such as antenatal education and lactation support, we invite you to visit our Welcome Baby Antenatal page for more details. Join us and take a positive step toward a healthier, more balanced pregnancy and postpartum journey.

Click here to learn more and sign up for our classes!